Afraid Of Losing? If You Are, Then You Already Did!

Gambling is not the issue here. A person who thinks that gambling is his way out of a wretched life loses just the same. A person who always relies on luck and uses gambling as a source of income also loses big time. This type of person views gambling as a risk worth taking regardless of the effect it has on him. Gambling makes a person lazy and reinforces belief on easy money. Deep within that person, he is losing part of his self-respect every time he engages in gambling. Now, put yourself in the shoes of a neophyte salesperson. First time salespersons usually have this kind of dilemma: to be or not to be; to approach or not to …

Affect Change With The Help Of Personal Development Programs

While personal development programs are often discussed, they are sadly misunderstood by most. Frequently they are considered to be a kind of course or retreat that focuses on the development of a personal trait of character to the exclusion of anything else. Conversely, others believe them to be great business tools that help anyone – from the entry level blue collar worker to the top executive of the company – to prepare themselves for climbing that next rung on the corporate ladder by teaching the latest business gimmicks and buzzwords. Neither is completely true while at the same time both contain valuable kernels of truth. Personal development coaching affects both a person’s private as well as business persona by focusing …

Advice To Help People To Attain Their Goals In Life

It is important that we set ourselves goals in life, these can be short term, over a longer period of one to five years and also lifetime goals. It is one thing setting yourself these targets, however it is another thing to actually achieve them. In this article I give advice and tips on how to successfully attain the goals you set. These goals when achieved can help to improve our lives and also helps us to become happier and more self fulfilled. Write down your goals I have always wanted to be a success and to have a happy life, I am sure this is the same for most people. In the early part of my life I was …

Advantages of Being Confident

Almost all successes and attainments in life come from your ability to feel certain that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve. Confidence is the gateway to success; to the life that you wish to lead and to the dreams that you desire to live. With confidence you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. With confidence you can rise up and handle life’s demands and challenges. You can tackle any hurdle and obstruction, and move on to the next step of your journey to fulfilment and achievement. One of the principle requirements to anything you want to do in your life is confidence. Confidence is an indispensable part of your development, betterment, progress and success, both …

Adult Dyslexia Test – Are You In The 95% That Need It And Don’t Know?

Dyslexia affects as many as 1 out of 10 people. 90-95% of adult dyslexics don’t know that their problems with learning are caused by dyslexia. Not knowing, they suffer from social stigma, low self esteem, depression. There is a simple way they could quickly improve their lives, change things for the better… Dyslexia is A learning disorder characterized by impairment of the ability to recognize and comprehend written words. It is usually associated with some type of neurologic disorder. All dyslexics are different, each with different symptoms and degrees of severity. There is no “typical” dyslexic. The symptoms are not apparent. The effects are often mistaken for something else. The key to getting an accurate diagnosis, and knowing, is an …

Adult Bedwetting: Facing A Closet Issue

About one in every 10 five-year-olds experience bed wetting. This is why bed wetting in young children is an acknowledged and accepted condition, similar to experiencing measles. That is, children develop immunity from measles and they eventually outgrow bedwetting. Bed wetting in older children, although less talked about, is also an accepted condition. Parents even seek out the help of health professionals to find solutions to stop or reduce the bedwetting. Among teenagers, bedwetting is already embarrassing. Yet, there are recognized remedies to address this condition of some unfortunate teenagers. Among adults, bedwetting is an issue that has become taboo. Adult bed wetters do everything so that their condition will not be known by any of their friends. Invitations from …

Adult ADHD: Are You An Idea Machine?

Chances are, if you have Adult ADHD, you’re an “idea machine”–you come up with great new ideas all the time, maybe several in a day! Problem is, the ideas are often unrelated to what you already decided to work on, and so each new idea becomes a distraction that takes you further away from your larger goals. What can a person with Adult ADHD and too many good ideas do? I have Adult ADHD myself, and I have 10 great ideas a day, minimum, that are “million-dollar ideas.” How do I actually implement one of them and get something done? I don’t want to just stop having great ideas. I love thinking about new ideas. It’s one of the things …

Adult Add And Women

Because girls with attention deficit don’t usually have the hyperactivity component that accompanies ADD, they’re thought of as being “emotional” or “difficult.” When they do have the hyperactivity factored in, then people call them tomboys or think of them as flaky or flighty. These girls also have more fights with peers because of their emotional spikes, and still, nobody recognizes that the girl is ADD. The interesting part is that they share all of the attention deficit symptoms with males, such as disorganization, impulsivity, and issues with time management, but still nobody recognizes the attention deficit side of some girls until they become adults. Usually, this is when their own children are diagnosed. Yet, when ADD girls grow up to …

Adult ADD: Why Implementing ADD-Friendly Systems Are Important

If you have ADD, do find yourself wanting to make more money? Do you want to be happier? You may find that if you just cut loose when you’re ADD-driven, the next thing you know, you’ll look around and say, “Oh, my gosh, where did all this mess come from?” When you realize that it’s all yours, you’ll probably feel horrible. ADD people really do like to have things tidy. So, if you create a system to deal with the messes you inevitably make, you’ll know where everything goes and if you decide to clean it all up, it can be done easily. Otherwise, don’t you feel overwhelmed? Stop wallowing in the, “Oh, gee, why can’t I get anything done?” …

Adult ADD: Who Do You Trust?

If you have ADD and you’re in a situation right now where you want an end result, whatever that may be, say… Make more money. And you’re very specific about that end result, but have no idea how to get there, you have to ask more questions. It’s the only answer. Successful people generally do things in an ADD way that they don’t really realize. Here’s the ADD way – step one is decide what you want very specifically. I’m making $2,000 a month; I want to make $5,000 a month. That’s your end result. From knowing the end result, you have to back into things, which is a very good way for people with ADD to do things. This …

Adult ADD: When One Does And The Other Doesn’t

Do you wake up every morning in a great mood and immediately start wanting to talk about all of your great ADD-induced ideas? Are you full of energy and ready to leap from the starting blocks? Many of us with ADD are. But maybe your partner isn’t quite so lively in the morning. Does he or she wake up in a quiet mood? It’s not that they don’t like mornings, but maybe they’re just not ready to hear about the exciting ideas you have planned, until he or she’s had coffee. You can look at this situation and find the disadvantage in this, which is that your ADD has you talking and talking in the morning, while your linear partner …

Adult ADD: What Everybody Should Know… About How To Focus Attention

Focus is a very interesting thing. It’s kind of confusing for a lot of people. Sometimes people have focus when they don’t know that they’re focused. Some people just can’t seem to focus. Some people find that they’re focusing on the wrong things, and not the things they want to focus on. It’s difficult to measure. Focus is a concept. It’s very difficult to say, “I’m focused” right? Versus, “I’m not focused,” because it’s very, very subjective. Where’s the focus scale? How much does it weigh if you’re very focused? The concept is very personal. One person’s focus is another person’s distraction, and you really need to take these ideas into consideration when you’re talking about putting these principles and …

Addiction To Venting

“I was up too late with my friend Peg last night,” Abigail told me in our phone session. “She was needing to vent. Then I had a problem falling asleep, but at least I was there for her.” “How often does this happen?” I asked her. “Oh, fairly often. At least every couple of weeks.” “Why do you continue to listen to her?” “Isn’t that what a good friend does?” “How do you feel when you listen to her?” “Kind of stressed.” “Do you see it helping her to vent to you over and over?’ “Well, she says she feels better after I listen to her.” “Of course she feels better! She has just dumped all her stress onto you. …

Addiction to Thinking

Randall sought my help because he was stuck being miserable and had no idea how to get out of his misery. In his life he had experienced moments of great joy and sense of oneness with all of life, but those moments were infrequent. He wanted more of those moments but had no idea how to bring them about. Randall is an extremely intelligent man, but in some ways he was using his own intelligence against himself. The problem was that when Randall did have those brief moments of true connection, he immediately went into his mind to try to figure out how it happened. The moment he went into his mind, he lost the connection that he so desperately …

Addiction to Talking

There is an old joke about people who talk a lot: “Do you know the 12-Step program for people who talk a lot? On and On Anon!” The joke recognizes that fact that incessant talking is a common addiction. Non-stop talking is about using others for attention and approval because of not giving oneself enough attention and approval. The talker is not actually offering anything to the listener. Instead, the talker, in going on and on with a monologue, is pulling energy from the listener. People who end up listening to a talker go on and on are often caretakers who are afraid to hurt the talker by disengaging or by telling the truth about their boredom. Talkers are often …

Addiction to Spirituality

Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community that encouraged their members to turn to God through prayer and meditation whenever they were feeling any difficult or painful feelings such as anger, hurt, anxiety, or depression. He had been taught that Spirit would transmute his feelings for him and bring him the peace he sought. Yet Lian was depressed. “I have faithfully practiced what I’ve had been taught, so why am I still depressed? What am I doing wrong?” Lian was suffering from what is called “spiritual bypass.” Spiritual bypass occurs when people use their spiritual practice as a way to avoid dealing with and taking …